Do I want to be skinny?

Last night I was browsing Pinterest (yes, I’m addicted) looking for some motivational fitness quotes for my Motivation board. I love to use them on here and sometimes I just read through them to help motivate me before a workout.  I ran into a few images that inspired the mild rant you will read below.

The problem I run into with some of the motivational fitness quotes is the images behind that show women’s bodies, many emphasize a thigh gap or a flat stomach.  For the most part this is fine but I think if a woman doesn’t know and appreciate her own body these images are damaging.

I’ve found some of the fitness motivation creates a fine line between aspiring for something and aspiring to be someone else.

I know I can change my body, I can lose weight, I can sculpt muscles but I recognize certain things on my body are not going to change.  I am short, I have broad shoulders, I have smaller hips, I have big calves.  I think it’s important to appreciate your own body instead of aspiring to have someone else’s body.

As often happens on Pinterest I begin a pinning frenzy going through board after board of tips, tricks, and quotes to inspired fitness until I came across the image below (Must lose weight, must not eat) and found myself delving into the dark world of “thinspiration” and pro-ana.


I’ve read about some of the pro-ana sites so I wasn’t completely shocked.  I think what surprised me was that some of these were mixed in with some of the fitness quotes I enjoy, which just reminded me that there’s so many mixed messages out there.  People, both men and women, are expected to live up to ideals that aren’t possible and more importantly aren’t healthy for everyone.

If the women in these images are healthy and happy that’s great but the messages are terrible.  We are making progress but we’re still a society that instead of looking at actual medical factors uses a sight-based assessment to determine health and most equate skinny with healthy.  I think if you are healthy and happy with your body, whether you’re a size 2 or 20, then more power to you but I do think healthy is key.

I’ve set off on this journey before with the goal of getting skinny, fitting into that swimsuit, wearing the pants I wore in high school but I failed every time, which is why I had to shift my goals from getting skinny to getting healthy, from changing my body to changing my life.

Do I still want to be skinny?  I want to lie and say no but I’m not immune to the pressures of the world.  Yes I want to be skinny but part of this transition is working on changing my mindset, finding my healthy body, and learning to love my body at any size.

I hope the women pinning these images realize that being skinny is not all there is to life and as corny as it sounds there’s so much more to all of us than what we see in the mirror.



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  2. Ellen Hawley · August 9, 2015

    Go look at a few movies from, say, the sixties or earlier (anything pre-Twiggy) and see what the women look like. They have the bodies of grown human beings. That was the standard women aspired to then. It’s nuts, wanting to look like an eleven-year-old–and a skinny one at that. Yes, the goal’s hard to get away from. We breathe in and the spores plant themselves in our lungs. But we can shake our heads and know today’s goal is crazy and not take it seriously.

    Sorry–I didn’t mean to sound like Advice Central. But the whole skinny thing just makes me nuts.

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    • Daisy9979 · August 9, 2015

      I love movies from that era, Marilyn Monroe, Jane Russell, Elizabeth Taylor (skinny but still had some curves) and I think that’s why it’s made it a bit easier for me to learn to accept my current body. I’ve never aspired to look emaciated.
      I’m working on getting healthy while also accepting my body as it is right now. I wish more women would learn to love their bodies and quit aspiring to someone else’s expectations. It makes me nuts too.

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      • Ellen Hawley · August 10, 2015

        Isn’t it funny how powerful those images are? Even when we know the game, know how they’re used, know we’re being manipulated, they still plant their shapes in our heads.

        I’ll join you in your wish.

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  4. Cailyn Blonstein · February 3, 2015

    this is one of the most powerful posts I’ve read so far! you’re 100% right!

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  5. journeytolovingyourself · February 2, 2015

    It’s so heartbreaking that these messages are broadcasted everywhere. It’s so hard not to fall into the pressures of society. I am inspired by your message and strength! Keep being an inspiration!!

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    • daisy9979 · February 3, 2015

      I always worry about the younger girls that are seeing these messages so I think it’s important to try to get the word out that healthy not skinny should be the goal. I’m humbled to be an inspiration. Thanks for reading! 🙂

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  6. keen peach · February 2, 2015

    Totally agree!


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